WOMAN advice PLEASE...HOW TO ASK A BANK TELLER OUT???

[qwerty90210]

thanks for taking the time to read...
need a few ideas here i'm stumped.

i want to ask an attractive woman out at the bank, but do not know how to take my approach.

one of the problems is that it is a small bank and her boss is usually near by (like 3 feet away)

so i cannot stand there and talk to her for like 10 minutes.

plus, i have no idea if she is at all interested or has a boyfriend. i allready did the ring check.

was thinking about giving her a note to call if interested, but that seems childish/grade schoolish BUT that is the best i have come up with so far.

any ideas here are greatly appreciated/hopefully

some of you ahve been in a similar position before.

thanks guys

90210

 

[winkyduck]

i feel ya. the note might be a good idea but it is also how bank robbers pass notes to tellers to let them know it is a hold up - so the note might scare her for a second.

i was in a similar predicament. there was a cashier at the store i shop at that i liked. after about 6 months of going thru her line almost all the time i wanted to ask her out. i knew i couldn't do it in line, i had to do elsewhere. i took a shot that one saturday her sked would be the same as the last one - so i got to the store about 20 minutes before she got to work. sure enough - she showed up about 10 minutes later. i asked her out and her reply was NOT "yes" or "no" but rather, "i'll pass," which isn't great for the ego.

as for you - maybe getting her outside might be the best thing to do. a note might seem like a holdup until she reads it. if you do it - submit a deposit note and the other one on the side.

 

[qwerty90210]

i do not want to scare her or mistaken it

good point winky

thanks

90210

i should just point blank ask her but she will be on the spot and probably not expecting it

 

[kidslick]

i think we have all been there..winky...

i would send her flowers ......with a note and your number ...

everyone in there is gonna be envious ,and jealous..


nothing ventured nothing GAINED

goodluck let us know what happens..kidslick

 

[gamblingislife]

Man to Man....Dude its easy, i had to think about your situation for couple of seconds,and have an idea.....
1/ Look for the name tag.
2/ call her at the job,just ask for her.
3/ when she answers,ask her out.
now quit being a pussy...and "Just do it!!! chicks love that romantic crap!!!!!
Plus, quit being scared! think about it.whats the worse that can happen???for that matter,she might be the biggest SLUT you'll ever meet, or she might stomp all over your feelings and flush em' down the toilet...lol....no offence, could happen.Atleast you'd know you gave it a shot.Sounds to me you have a huge crush,that shit is dangerous,if it doesnt workout you'd be crushed like a bitch.that crap is dangerous.
But remember,Thinkin' about it, isnt gonna do u any good,either its a yes or a no....But just do it.
One more thing,remember most of the life's biggest disappointments are things, we want the most! quit crying and do it, if this doesnt help ya, then damn boy you need help!!!!!!!!!

plus you looking for a woman's advice on the prescription? why would a woman hang out here......??????
p.s goodluck!! keep us posted on what happens...

[This message was edited by gamblingislife on 05-04-03 at 12:12 AM.]

 

[DonMarco]

i don't agree with you guys...

first of all, it all depends on how long the whole saga has been going on. my personal strategy was to jump all over a girl quickly. the more you wait, the worst it gets. trust me, the last thing a girl wants is a guy who is afraid to make the first step. and they can always smell that. like cats.

secondly, forget the flowers. personnaly i will give flowers to a woman only if i know her for a longer period of time. flowers mean love in female minds. there is no love between two of you.

humans are like animals, the sex appeal goes first, the intelectual chemistry and love come afterwords.

females love confident and agressive (not violent) men.

ask her out, in front of her boss and you will either impress her, or make her blush. there is no other result.

or, you can just ignore my opinion. after all i'm only a canadian of italian origin married for the second time.

GL

 

[gamblingislife]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by don marco:
i don't agree with you guys...

first of all, it all depends on how long the whole saga has been going on. my personal strategy was to jump all over a girl quickly. the more you wait, the worst it gets. trust me, the last thing a girl wants is a guy who is afraid to make the first step. and they can always smell that. like cats.

secondly, forget the flowers. personnaly i will give flowers to a woman only if i know her for a longer period of time. flowers mean love in female minds. there is no love between two of you.

humans are like animals, the sex appeal goes first, the intelectual chemistry and love come afterwords.

females love confident and agressive (not violent) men.

ask her out, in front of her boss and you will either impress her, or make her blush. there is no other result.

or, you can just ignore my opinion. after all i'm only a canadian of italian origin married for the second time.

GL<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Man to Man....Dude its easy, i had to think about your situation for couple of seconds,and have an idea.....
1/ Look for the name tag.
2/ call her at the job,just ask for her.
3/ when she answers,ask her out.
now quit being a pussy...and "Just do it!!! chicks love that romantic crap!!!!!
Plus, quit being scared! think about it.whats the worse that can happen???for that matter,she might be the biggest SLUT you'll ever meet, or she might stomp all over your feelings and flush em' down the toilet...lol....no offence, could happen.Atleast you'd know you gave it a shot.Sounds to me you have a huge crush,that shit is dangerous,if it doesnt workout you'd be crushed like a bitch.that crap is dangerous.
But remember,Thinkin' about it, isnt gonna do u any good,either its a yes or a no....But just do it.
One more thing,remember most of the life's biggest disappointments are things, we want the most! quit crying and do it, if this doesnt help ya, then damn boy you need help!!!!!!!!! plus you looking for a woman's advice on the prescription? why would a woman hang out here......??????
p.s goodluck!! keep us posted on what happens...plus listen to marco and live single forever.....

 

[qwerty90210]

leaning to just flat out asking her, put her on the spot

i just have to wait for the right time, not busy etc

need to go in on a weekday afternoon when it is not as busy like it is on a saturday

ALSo, was like flowers great idea, how the hell could she say no?

but then if i left my name how would she know who i was?

she has seen my bank account and said today you should see someone in our investment department and i was like ok sure

but not today, i kind of played it off

i got back in the car and was like i should have said investment is going out to vegas with a woman and having a good time

but that is my smartass in me and would have dumb and i'm glad i didn't think of that at the time

she knows how much $ i have a dad thing i believe

I HAVE NO IDEA IF SHE IS EVEN INTERESTED IN ME????

just gonna have to put her on the spot and flat out ask her i guess

roll the dice
90210

 

[gamblingislife]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by qwerty90210:
leaning to just flat out asking her, put her on the spot

i just have to wait for the right time, not busy etc

need to go in on a weekday afternoon when it is not as busy like it is on a saturday

ALSo, was like flowers great idea, how the hell could she say no?

but then if i left my name how would she know who i was?

she has seen my bank account and said today you should see someone in our investment department and i was like ok sure

but not today, i kind of played it off

i got back in the car and was like i should have said investment is going out to vegas with a woman and having a good time

but that is my smartass in me and would have dumb and i'm glad i didn't think of that at the time

she knows how much $ i have a dad thing i believe

I HAVE NO IDEA IF SHE IS EVEN INTERESTED IN ME????

just gonna have to put her on the spot and flat out ask her i guess

roll the dice
90210<HR></BLOCKQUOTE> 90210, you soo.......sooo.... like her! Dude i'm telling you this shit is so.......................................................dangerous, she's gonna end up breakin' your heart ( most likely) Dude, Just listen to me and do it, Ask her out!, Plus, if you are tryin'a impress some woman with your money, you are only gonna attract trash! you need to find someone who likes you for you!!!!! just an advice, again, i really wish you well...goodluck!

 

[gamblingislife]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by qwerty90210:
leaning to just flat out asking her, put her on the spot

i just have to wait for the right time, not busy etc

need to go in on a weekday afternoon when it is not as busy like it is on a saturday

ALSo, was like flowers great idea, how the hell could she say no?

but then if i left my name how would she know who i was?

she has seen my bank account and said today you should see someone in our investment department and i was like ok sure

but not today, i kind of played it off

i got back in the car and was like i should have said investment is going out to vegas with a woman and having a good time

but that is my smartass in me and would have dumb and i'm glad i didn't think of that at the time

she knows how much $ i have a dad thing i believe

I HAVE NO IDEA IF SHE IS EVEN INTERESTED IN ME????

just gonna have to put her on the spot and flat out ask her i guess

roll the dice
90210<HR></BLOCKQUOTE> And as far as her being interested in you goes,you'll never find out,till you ask her, straight up! grow some balls and do it buddy..........You'll never ever know till you ask..............never....one more thing,should'hve ...would'hve...should'hve ----would'hve........NOT A GOOD SIGN!!!!!! if something goes wrong,your poor damn heart is gonna get shredded. do it!ask her, get that damn shit over with...

[This message was edited by gamblingislife on 05-04-03 at 12:37 AM.]

 

[qwerty90210]

i am not trying to impress someone with $, its not me

my point is that she unfortunately see the $, and then i have second thoughts if likes me or my $

but that statement is useless because i really do not know her and i'm just passing judgement

i just know i want to be cautious

i'm just a saver $
more so than a spender $

i just do not like the fact that she knows my $
that's all

but what the hell, she probably is not even interested and that means this thread is a complete waste of time....but then again i will learn something her, i know i will from everyone ideas/opinions on the topic, so this is not a waste of time

thanks guys

90210

idea; gonna bring some coin change in and then she has to go to the other side and she will be alone and i'll ask her...

i need to collect change LOL

gonna have to go to another bank and get rolls of quarters and dimes etc

then dump it in a buckett
and cash it in

hhehe

a brainstorm idea...kind of like this 1

 

[gamblingislife]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by qwerty90210:
i am not trying to impress someone with $, its not me

my point is that she unfortunately see the $, and then i have second thoughts if likes me or my $

but that statement is useless because i really do not know her and i'm just passing judgement

i just know i want to be cautious

i'm just a saver $
more so than a spender $

i just do not like the fact that she knows my $
that's all

but what the hell, she probably is not even interested and that means this thread is a complete waste of time....but then again i will learn something her, i know i will from everyone ideas/opinions on the topic, so this is not a waste of time

thanks guys

90210

idea; gonna bring some coin change in and then she has to go to the other side and she will be alone and i'll ask her...

i need to collect change LOL

gonna have to go to another bank and get rolls of quarters and dimes etc

then dump it in a buckett
and cash it in

hhehe

a brainstorm idea...kind of like this 1<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
90210, that is not a good idea,sorry buddy, i'm trying to help yourself there,i fell ya, but i feel sorry for you at the same time, since she done saw your account.But,you'd be able to tell,if she likes you or your money, if you ever ask her out.
All i can suggest right now is, Just get this over with, why dont you just call her?call her at the job, that way,even if she says no,you'd be fine!! with shredded heart but i guess its better then not knowin' at all....i guess...damn just grow some balls and do it buddy..

 

[Phaedrus]

Phaedrus' plan requires timing and fortuitous circumstance.

First, you need to hire a half-dozen men of Arabic descent who are good at making crazy faces and shouting in rapid, unintelligible tones. Have them fake a bank hold up, wherein you blitz in with an Uzi (loaded with blanks of course) and shoot them up (you'll need those Hollywood-style exploding fake blood thingies), leaping over the counter to save the girl.

Failing that, just frickin ask her man. Life is short. Don't make any big plans, don't offer to take her to a movie or anything else, ask her to go somewhere relatively low-key and undramatic for a cup of coffee, or an early light meal. Spend twenty minutes chewing with your mouth closed and laughing at her jokes, and if there's any spark there THEN ask her for her phone number, give her yours etc. and work on planning a real date. THAT's when you should get nervous, not on that first simple meeting out of the context of a working environment, when she can be more or less herself and you can get a feel for whether or not you want to pursue it farther.

If you're worried about her boss, and you've got a little money in the bank, hell, ask her boss if she's single and what she's like. Especially if the boss is female.

If all else fails go the staged terror attack route. That also makes an excellent escape strategy in case she turns out to be a dud; you just get them to attack the bistro or movie theater or whatever, and get "lost" in the confusion.


Phaedrus

 

[Journeyman]

This is a situation I seem to be in WEEKLY! Its never easy , easpecially when you`d have to face her after the fact (thats my biggest fear) I can`t stand the thought of having to see someone after and if she says no.....NOTES WORK! I have used notes many times, some are turned off, MANY are flattered! Especially if they sortive know who its from....In this case I`d go with a phone call, I`m sure you can get her on the phone, no pressure that way, awkwardness won`t be there...Hopefully you can go to another branch if she says no... One rose (with note) isn`t a bad option, but then you have to rely on her calling you... I`d go for the phone call in this case....But in the future, notes work... even on car windshields, LMAO...I will stop at nothing to ask someone out and save the embarrasment of a possible 'no' GL let us know what happens!

 

[Highdaddy]

id just simply ask if she is single...then if she is, just ask if u can get her number, i think that should do

 

[JudgeWapner]

Just ask her if she takes night deposits,and if there is any penalty for early withdrawel.

 

[JudgeWapner]

Ok,better idea.Borrow as much cash as you can.Make a huge deposit,ask her out at the same time.After you pork her withdraw the $ and pay your friends back.

 

[IDENTITY]

tell her you have a friend who has been wanting to ask out this bank teller....soon she will catch on and think youre cute...

 

[dimeplayersonly]

judges idea the best by far......lol

 

[8isenough]

LMAO @ Judge! Just ask her if you can hit it bro!! Make sure if you get her back to your place you clean all your love juice off of the computer!